Friend’s Rights

Friends Rights

Friend, as soon as the word comes to mind, the idea of ​​a faithful, selfless and sincere person emerges. This sincere man is known in society for his friendliness, we can also call it a secret. The real friend is the one who works hard and always preaches goodness.

Some people in the guise of friendship play a worse role than their enemies and lead their friend astray from the right path and make him a rebel against Allah Almighty. On the Day of Resurrection, a person who has been bitten by bad friends will say with regret: O! I would not have made such and such a friend, but at that time these tears of regret and remorse would not be of any use. That is why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) warned a Muslim and said: The one who makes friends is based on the religion of his friend, so when you make friends, check who you are making friends with. A Muslim avoids bad friends and loves and befriends the righteous servants of Allah. He hates all those who are rebellious and disobedient to Allah and His Messenger. It is as if the love of Allah and His Messenger is love for him and enmity with Allah and His Messenger is enmity with him. The meaning of the great instruction of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is: “Whoever loves and hates for Allah and gives and withholds something for the sake of Allah, then he has completed his faith.” (Sunan Abi Dawood)

It is the honor of a true believer to associate with good people and extend a hand of friendship. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Meaning: “A believer befriends and befriends him (and) there is no good in a person who is neither acquainted with anyone nor acquainted with him.” (Musnad Ahmad)

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has given great good news about those who make good friends, meaning: “There are pulpits of light around the Throne, on them will be people with light clothes and bright faces They will be jealous. The companions said: O Messenger of Allah! Explain their attributes to us too. ”He said:“ These people love one another for the sake of Allah, sit next to one another and come to meet one another for the sake of Allah. ”(Sunan Nisai)

Friendship with good people is a source of God’s love. The meaning of Hadith Qudsi is that Allah Almighty says: “My love has been proved for those who meet each other for me and my love has been proved for those who help each other for my sake. It is not that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “On the Day of Resurrection, when there will be no shadow except the shadow of Allaah’s Throne, then Allaah will grant to His slaves the shade of His Throne, out of which There will also be two people who love each other for the sake of Allah and separate from each other for the sake of Allah. ”(Sahih Bukhari)

A man was going to meet his companion when Allah Almighty appointed an angel for him on the way. The angel asked the man: Where are you going? The man said: I am going to meet my brother (friend). The angel said: Are you going to him for some work? He said: No. The angel said again: Do you have any relationship with him? The angel replied in the negative, then said: Is there any favor for you that you are going to pay? The man then denied. Then the angel began to ask again: Then why are you going to him? The man said: I love this (friend) for the sake of Allah, so I am going to meet him. On hearing this, the angel gave him the good news that Allah Almighty has sent me to you to inform you that Allah Almighty loves you that you have loved this person only for the sake of Allah Almighty and Allah Almighty has blessed you. Heaven has made it obligatory. (Sahih Muslim)

A good friend comes in handy when needed. He sympathizes with her in trouble and does not stop her from using her wealth. If the friend is ill, he should be examined. If he is busy with some work, his hand should be extended. He should be reminded if he has forgotten anything. If found, welcome. If he sits down, he should expand the meeting and when he speaks, listen to him attentively. Don’t mention his faults in front of or behind a friend. Don’t reveal its secrets. Be gentle with him. Don’t go for less that your full potential. He should not show remorse or resentment in any matter. Use your language for a friend the way he expects it from his friend. Advise a friend not to talk so long that he gets tired. In the same way, he should refrain from scolding and admonishing him in front of people, because he will be ashamed and hated in this way. Imam Shafi’i says: “He who considers his brother (friend) a secret, is doing him good and is the cause of his adornment. On the contrary, he who advises his friend in public is disgracing his friend and making him look bad. “Forgive a friend’s mistakes and just look away from useless things. If a friend accidentally commits a crime or sin, he should not dissociate himself from it, nor should he reduce the friendship, but should explain it to him. Because a good friend is like a pearl that stays in the mud and remains a precious pearl. Syedna Abu Darda ‘says: If your brother (friend) changes and does not remain in a state of goodness, then it is not right to leave him, because if he can be bad, then he can be good. Friendship requires loyalty, steadfastness and perseverance. If a friend dies, the friend’s children and friends should be treated as well as he treated his friend. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) respected an old woman who came to him. When he was asked about it, he said: She used to come to Khadijah. Loyalty also requires that a friend not be associated with an enemy. Imam Shafi’i says: When your friend becomes an ally of the enemy, think that they are equal in your enmity. Don’t bother a friend, as they can cause a breakup. According to a pious sage, if the difficulties are eliminated, then there will be continuity in love and friendship. Pray for your friend and his children, because the meaning of your blessed instruction is that when a person prays for his brother (friend) in absentia, the angel says that you will be rewarded in the same way. ۔ (Sahih Muslim)

written by Abid Mnazoor